[Geek44]

Two points. First, Brin, when you sign up here...you're a 'full-member' straight away and thus 'one of the gang'. We don't much stand on ceremony here so your opinions are welcome.
Second, I guess it all depends on what kind of relationship one has with one's family. If it was me, I would probably not go because I'd have made my case as you have and if this guy is indeed 'the one' (whatever that means) then waiting to marry him for another month or two wouldn't matter much. I guess you'd have to weigh up how difficult your life wil be if you attend the wedding rather than earning the money. Sure, money comes and goes but you have to eat and sleep under a roof. I've been hungry and cold and believe me, when you're hungry...it doesn't matter one whit who loves you and who doesn't. My two cents.