Parent discipline Ugh!

[Geek44]

Hey LT, join the 'guilty father club'. I've had a rough patch with my son lately too. As many will know, I'm a stay at home Dad but we're both at home now. I know exactly how you feel mate and the guys are spot on correct. Besides, that isn't the stuff she'll remember in the long run anyway. At least you had enough respect for her to think about what happened and to talk about it afterwards. THAT's the stuff that will stay with her.
It's funny how my son's 'bad' behaviour often comes back to me. Often, when there's a struggle, all it takes is for me to change some tiny aspect of my parenting and hey presto...no more problem. Lately, getting him to bed has been less than peaceful. All it took was for me to spend a little more one on one time just before bed. Last night while we were doing a jigsaw together...he looked at me and asked to go to bed. Miracles never cease.
Forget it LT...I'm sure she has by now.

[PanzerBob]

Ya done good LT................Just wait 'til they are grown and still living in your basement, At his age I was already an Ableseaman, most his age can't figure what they want to do. There is lights coming on now though he's finally admitted a reasonable income is going to take time. There will come a time when your wisdom won't mean nothing, then 5 to 6 years later, you will become a source of knowledge again. That time is such a relief.

[Geek44]

One of my mates...after being told what a fool he was by his teenage daughter replied; 'I guess I'm just not young enough to know everything anymore.' Perfect.
Peace.

[PanzerBob]

Originally Posted by Geek44

One of my mates...after being told what a fool he was by his teenage daughter replied; 'I guess I'm just not young enough to know everything anymore.' Perfect.
Peace.

Could have used that one a few times, and still may! Thanks

[McCoy]

A line to remember as it couldn't be more true than that.

[Jim O]

I remember my son asking me, somewhere around age 16, how I could have gotten to be my age without having him around to tell me what to do.

He's just shy of 21 now and the respect is more mutual than it was then...

[cyberia]

"Hello, my name is cyberia, and I am a former brat from hell."

I have to admit I had a few years when I was a real chore for my poor parents. My father never hit me, but he had a way of getting his point across. One day as I complained non-stop about all things trivial, he came into the kitchen and handed me the American copy of my birth certificate.

He said, "Read this, and show me where it says satisfaction guaranteed."

Parents have to whatever they can to guide and enlighten. Even if our reasons and methods are neither understood or appreciated at the time.

At the time I thought my Pop was just being a wise guy, I now realize he was a wise man.

Someday LT, Skye will look back on such things and realize her Daddy loved her, and raised her well.

Have no regrets, she won't.

[Panzermacher]

Very True Cyb, she'll remember that forever.

And Geez, my mom used to always tell me during my "wilder dayz" that "She brought me into this world, which meant she had the power to take me out of this world" I always wondered about that statement, back then.....until I became a parent! LOL

PM's Rules of Parenthood
1. Never let em see ya sweat!
2. Tell as many "When I was your age..." stories as you can. Sometimes they learn by your mistakes. (or you hope)
3. Tears come with the territory. If the child don't believe that, show them the USMC poster that boldly states "WE NEVER PROMISED YOU A ROSE GARDEN!"
4. Blood , Puke , snot...and other bodily stuff, better get used to that stuff, right here, right now. As a parent you will see OCEANS of the stuff before your kid leaves home.
5. Boundaries will be tested, often and in varying intensities. Be prepared and have a battle plan.
6. Be Firm, Be Fair.
7. Love regardless....no conditions, no questions. They are YOUR offspring.
8. Always be ready with a bluff.... Old age and treachery ALWAYS beats youth and brilliance.
9. IF ever told you are stupid, old fashioned, out of touch....or anything along that line, always follow up with a good comeback like: "Oh yeah? If yer so dog-goned smart, why ain't you in College now, or have your own Multi-million dollar job like OTHER child prodigies???" IT works!
10. There are no instruction manuals that come with a baby. There is only love and growth. Nurture both and things will go just fine! And like most things in life...it's a learning experience for both you and your child.
11. What works for one child, may not necessarily work for it's sibling. Kids are as different as snowflakes. Each one takes a different approach. Be ready.
12. Don't trust the so called Experts.... (How can anyone be and Expert??? Unless you have 1000's of children!)
Thats some of my rules. Sometimes they work...sometimes not. But its all we got as parents......

[lufttiger]

Those are great guys, thanks for sharing.

[MAGNA]

Kids do have a way of getting their own perspective on things. When my youngest son was in primary school they had to look after a raw egg for a week. It had to go where they did. This was to give them a perspective on looking after something (or someone) who could not look after themselves.

When the time was up i asked him what he thought as in did he think he would like to look after children of his own later in life.

His answer ?

"Well, I'm certainly not going to have any eggs". I'm still not sure if he got it but that's how we think as kids. The here and now is more important than the later on. Being told off here and now is very emotional as a kid. The here and now moves on quickly to the next here and now (which can be minutes or a few hours) which becomes the only important time. Kids continually filter information and learn - they are a sponge for this. If you tell a child off and yell at them every five minutes they will ignore you. If it is only done when a point needs to be made they will learn from. So do you as a parent.

Panzermachers rules are a good start. Especially rule 12. Who knows your child better than you ?