Ever feel like you are on a knife's edge?

[Geek44]

I'm thinking of all of you.
My father had Post Traumatic Stress disorder from being on the receiving end of Soviet bombing during WW2 and also from having a gun waved in his face during an armed robbery on his business in the 1970's. Basically, it destroyed him. He stopped working at the age of forty and took up drinking on a full-time basis...I don't blame him now, but I did when I was younger.
Life's tough for African refugees to Western countries. There was an incident here last year when a 19 year old Sudanese refugee was beaten to death by two guys and his body lay on the street for four hours before any of the neighbours got their crap together to call the police. The media has jumped right on board with the fear-mongering too. Any group of Africans is now termed a 'gang' by newsreaders. There are many refugees in this country but Africans really stand out and they're the newest group to arrive...the same stuff happened to the European refugees in the fifties, the Vietnamese and Cambodians in the seventies and eighties and the Iraqis in the nineties. The irony is that these folks have done some very, very tough years that would likely break those who most judge them. They arrive here with nothing but their lives and consequently, they take nothing for granted. Education, the right to vote, relative safety...all things I see average Aussie pissing up against the proverbial wall.
Peace.

[PanzerBob]

Originally Posted by Geek44

I'm thinking of all of you.
My father had Post Traumatic Stress disorder from being on the receiving end of Soviet bombing during WW2 and also from having a gun waved in his face during an armed robbery on his business in the 1970's. Basically, it destroyed him. He stopped working at the age of forty and took up drinking on a full-time basis...I don't blame him now, but I did when I was younger.
Life's tough for African refugees to Western countries. There was an incident here last year when a 19 year old Sudanese refugee was beaten to death by two guys and his body lay on the street for four hours before any of the neighbours got their crap together to call the police. The media has jumped right on board with the fear-mongering too. Any group of Africans is now termed a 'gang' by newsreaders. There are many refugees in this country but Africans really stand out and they're the newest group to arrive...the same stuff happened to the European refugees in the fifties, the Vietnamese and Cambodians in the seventies and eighties and the Iraqis in the nineties. The irony is that these folks have done some very, very tough years that would likely break those who most judge them. They arrive here with nothing but their lives and consequently, they take nothing for granted. Education, the right to vote, relative safety...all things I see average Aussie pissing up against the proverbial wall.
Peace.

BRAVO ZULU

Very well said Geek44, very well indeed!!

Bob out

[Geek44]

Thanks Bob...although it ended up being a bit of a rant. Truth is that I'm actually a closet utopian and a very large part of me resents human frailty. That's probably only because I have the strength to not kill my neighbours because they are religious and I'm not, have forgiven the Soviets for dropping bombs on my Dad and the Japanese for bombing Darwin. So please forgive my ranting, I'm busy working on my spirit/soul at the moment and that empowers me...it's easy for me to judge.
I'm still here for you guys.
Peace.

[PanzerBob]

Originally Posted by Geek44

Thanks Bob...although it ended up being a bit of a rant. Truth is that I'm actually a closet utopian and a very large part of me resents human frailty. That's probably only because I have the strength to not kill my neighbours because they are religious and I'm not, have forgiven the Soviets for dropping bombs on my Dad and the Japanese for bombing Darwin. So please forgive my ranting, I'm busy working on my spirit/soul at the moment and that empowers me...it's easy for me to judge.
I'm still here for you guys.
Peace.

No if someone was to say it was a rant, especially on this subject, they better have their Flak Vest on because there's nothing wrong with what you said my Bravo Zulu still stands..................

Now I feel a rant coming on!!!

Bob out

[Geek44]

Thanks Bob. I believe you're in a position to know better than me about this.
Peace.

[Roddoss72]

Salutations All

At the moment i am going through a deep blue funk, it is hard for me because it relates to having someone in my life, as of yet at the age of 42 i have not had anyone in my life, i did not get love from my parents and brother, and so far i have yet to recieve love from anyone else, all i have known is rejection after rejection, i get the same old spin when it comes to women (you're a nice guy but or can we just be friends),the other day i became very moody, it came from watching s baby, i became clucky, i want to become a dad, but i have given this idea up, it is too late for me, there is no one out there for me, maybe i am not important or worthy enough to love.

It also cuts deeply that i'll go through life never knowing what it is have that special person in my life, that my heritage dies with me, in the end i am a genetic dead end.

Roddoss72

[TRDG]

Na, there are a lot of others in you predicament as well, kind of, been there, done that in that I'm 44, never married and no kids. Could have had them and been married as well, but nope, not the way it went down, and I just live with it. The first engagement probably would have worked out, but being "trapped" into marraige is a deal breaker to me, no matter how much one loves another, TRUST me there buddy!!!
Single life is something I grew into, there are perks ya know as well, at least some of the times, and I'm usually fairly happy most of the time, unless the dreaded work crap rears its (usuallly) ugly head. Females (sorry to those of yoy here) seen to be a dime a dozen where I live, but finding the RIGHT one just is'nt, I bet you know what I mean to.

So Cheer up my friend, things can be worse, ya know??


Tom

[cyberia]

Originally Posted by Roddoss72

Salutations All

At the moment i am going through a deep blue funk, it is hard for me because it relates to having someone in my life, as of yet at the age of 42 i have not had anyone in my life, i did not get love from my parents and brother, and so far i have yet to recieve love from anyone else, all i have known is rejection after rejection, i get the same old spin when it comes to women (you're a nice guy but or can we just be friends),the other day i became very moody, it came from watching s baby, i became clucky, i want to become a dad, but i have given this idea up, it is too late for me, there is no one out there for me, maybe i am not important or worthy enough to love.

It also cuts deeply that i'll go through life never knowing what it is have that special person in my life, that my heritage dies with me, in the end i am a genetic dead end.

Roddoss72

Wow, this is not a deep blue funk. This is a level three meltdown.
But you already know that, so lets move on to somethings you obiviously don't know.

Life does not end at 42. It is never too late to find someone or start a family. And based on what I have read above the world has not given up on you mate, you are starting to give up on yourself.

I'm not being mean, nor flip. In fact I'm relaying to you exactly what I would say if a friend of mine of 30 years rang me up and said what you have above.

Based on your posts here you are an intelligent person, with a sense of humor who is willing to make friends and has. No one here seems to consider you unworthy or unimportant.

Hell, Tom responded to your post as a friend and gave you some sound advice. You should take it.

Perhaps life has been less than kind to you so far. But that is no guarantee it will continue to be so unless you let it. You have to pull down that rear view mirror stuck to the inside of your forehead and throw it away. Leave the past where it belongs and start working toward a positive future.

This not just some silly pep talk. There are people who have faced a lot worse than what you have described and have turned things around for themselves. I know, because I have seen them do it.

If there is something out there that you want go get it. If you meet a dozen more rejections or a hundred, so what. If you continue to try you can succeed. And then none of the let downs along the way will matter.

[PanzerBob]

Roddoss72

Good day, hopefully a better one anyway.

Me I been married twice before, and now finally a third time to the right freakin' woman, I'm 47 that took me 35 years and a Kenyan bride to find matrimonial peace. Plus I adopted her son. Many women outside of the home stompin' grounds really do appreciate us nice guys. If my wife were to be gone, I wouldn't even give a second thought to look for another African women. Canadian women seem to want too much "stuff" not just happy to have a nice stable loving home. As for kids, me I can't have any, and we still may adopt more. R72 there are so many the need a Father, the gene pool thing is not the only way to go. My son is my son, not a step kid, and I'm his Dad. He has no interest in the person who didn't have the brass ones to step up.

I get the impression if all this is what you need, you will find it, sometimes love finds you when you least expect it.

Now all that said there is no dishonour not finding that special lady as of yet. Cyberia's and Tom's advice is sound too, Me, I like being married but it took me two to get it right and well honestly loads of cash, only because I cut my losses because the "stuff" don't really mean anything in the end.

Bottom line don't give up!

Bob out

[McCoy]

R72, you're far from alone. I'm 38 n' I crashed n' burned in my early twenties when I walked in on my girlfriend with her ex. I really went down deep n' hard n' it took ages to overcome the sad experience. On the whole it left me wiser but foremost more cynical n' then a bit even more cynical n' did I mention cynical? The sad thing is that durin' this period i did miss out on THE love of me life. We're really good friends today but it's naggin' me n' all other women gets compared to her for my part. So I'm quite alone in me life without a serious girlfriend n' just a few friends irl n' my 'ol folks but that's it plus a couple of families on a couple of forums on the net with the Zone one of 'em.